The shoots have a rest period in the 'void' all winter, gathering energy they then need to push their way through the hard earth, in the dark, in order to emerge. Its also worth bearing in mind that all things pass, good times and bad life doesn't just stay the same and neither do we and what we see as our darkest times are the times when we grow the most.įinally I'd like to leave you with the analogy of spring which is very timely. The more uncomfortable experiences in life we go through the more we can reassure ourselves and others that we will be okay it won't kill us and sometimes in hindsight we can see that we gained something that previously we didn't have. Similarly, when we think we are really stuck and nothing is going to happen, when the time is right we will also go through a change and be propelled forwards.ĭuring periods of change and stress its also helpful to remember times when we have gone through a similar process and how we managed then. A good analogy is of a pregnant woman who thinks the baby is never going to come, and then goes into labour and is tensing to resist the contractions.
It can be difficult to practice, but trying not to resist what is happening helps us to get through these times more calmly and quickly. It's like we are stuck on 'pause', unsure about what will happen next or when and its usual at this point we worry and try to fill the gaps in with what could go wrong. Unfortunately this pause - I call 'the void' - can be a length of time where nothing much seems to be happening, or moving forwards. When something more obvious ends in our life, like a relationship, finishing a project etc, there is usually a pause before something new comes in. Every moment is unique and dies and gives birth to the next moment, but because it is predictable we usually see life as continuous. Even if the change is positive, like getting married, we can still feel elements of fear as we are fundamentally making a change and the consequences of that change are as yet unknown to us.Ī deeper fear that we may not be aware of is fear of death. If we are not sure that we are secure in the world, the fear can be intense - for example, if we have lost our job and aren't sure how we will pay our bills. When we are experiencing factors in life that are unknown, especially issues around security, this can trigger survival instincts and the 'flight or fight' responses.
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